Tip No 3 is listening mindfully with all your senses
Empowering Children – Tip No 3 is about listening mindfully to children with all your senses.
As most empowering or dis-empowering of children occurs in the first eight years of their lives, these are their most vulnerable years. Because the energy of emotions is invisible and all pervading, it enters the psyche of children even before they are born as they tune in to the emotions of their mothers, and the energy field within the surrounding environment.
Very young children are more in tune with the energy fields and the vibrations within them, than they are to the words they hear. They also respond with emotion rather than words in the first few years, and this is why it’s important to be listening mindfully to them with all your senses.
Understanding how they behave this way
Children come into this life wide open and trusting, expecting joy and a free exchange of nurturing love. They are all born empathetic and sensitive to vibrations. Newborns still live in a subtle world, almost completely connected to their mother’s body. When the mother’s subtle sphere overlaps the infant’s, a major communication takes place. This subtle communication may be below the level of awareness of the mother, but it is the only level of awareness fully active in the infant. This original heart-to-heart skill of feeling into – child to mother and mother to child- is its original blueprint for growth and survival.
Babies and young children commonly show signs of empathetic connections to each other. They will cry when they hear another cry, and react to disturbances in others around them, as though it is their own, crying when they see another’s tears. An older baby may give another baby a toy, or stroke its head.
From the time children are born, they begin developing a subliminal system for feeling their way through life. Depending on the reception they receive, their highly sensitive little body learns to either stay open and radiate, or contract in self-protection. They are merged with their environment and, like a dolphin, send out their own brand of sonar; learning to navigate by what expanded without limit into the world, and by what bounced back. They are like a miniature sun, beaming out love, light and joy to anyone who wants to be in it. As their unconditional love reaches their parents or other important people in their lives, they maintain their ability to love and feel empathy and are validated. If their parents learned to be afraid, shut down their hears, developed distrust, or rejected joy, the child’s sonar bounces back. When boundless joy hits rigid beliefs and buried emotions, the child cannot experience itself as it was born to be. When this first occurs, the child experiences a strange sense of disorientation and lack of validation. It is their first feeling of separation, fear and pain. The child begins to adopt behaviours that will reduce the pain and separation. They stop being the beautiful, radiant, joyful being that is their birthright.
In time these responses crystallise into unspoken rules for survival. They became feeling habits which are designed to keep them alive, and allows some of their inherent beauty to shine through; as much as their body-mind felt was safe.
How feeling habits are formed
Some of these feeling habits are healthy ones, such as withdrawing within to see what feels right for them, or emulating the patterns of the people they trust and admire. Many feeling habits are unhealthy as they were designed for protection or to reinforce misperceptions their baby mind made from the experiences they had in their lives. Very often a child will learn to ‘leave their body’ and become insensitive to the terrible pain of fighting and arguing parents, or abuse of the child itself.
Later in life, those feeling habits become ingrained in the child and the unhealthy ones keep their personal vibration low, becoming a barrier to feeling self love and self respect; which in turn blocks much of life’s joy and contentment.
Children won’t be expansively creative if they are punished for it. They stop being affectionate if it makes their parents uncomfortable. They stop radiating loving vibrations from their chest or eyes, if they feel a hardened heart or if the eyes of their mother or father, are unresponsive. They learn to be silent if their parents are more relaxed then; or act funny because the moments of laughter feel better than the absences created by workaholic parents. If they encounter outright abuse, the intense contraction responses in the body can severely stunt their growth physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. This is how the unhealthy feeling habits start to form.
Listening with all your senses creates healthy feeling habits
Children who are empowered to live to their highest potential are a blessing to the planet, and to humanity. It is this generation of children who will have to face, and overcome the issues of pollution, clean energy, and all the human suffering, not being addressed by the present generation of adults who wield power in the world of today.
Children need all the help they can get from the earliest possible start. I see much progress being made in expanding their minds to believe they live in a world of unlimited potential, and infinite possibilities. From the earliest ages, children are watching programs on TV and Notebooks and other internet devices which have, on the tap of a finger, exciting adventures of underwater and outer space living. Many of the shows available are showing children how to co-operate, collaborate and think of the common good. Children will believe that life can be like this, as these programs go into their subconscious mind as fact and truth. The subconscious mind in the very young child (and I might add, an older person with dementia) cannot differentiate a documentary from a work of fiction.